Seven Ways to Sexy | Smell Good Spa™

You know I am all about women being whole in every aspect of their lives, and self-care is a part of that complete package.

The other day on G+, my social friend Dahila DeWinters shared one of her great blog posts. Immediately, I knew I had to share with my readers. So, I sent her a quick message on Facebook, to invite her to come and share this with you. This post fits right into the live good.feel good.smell good.™ experience.  Let me know if you do or will do any of these tips. Hopefully #3 is a tip you do already. ;o)


Seven Ways to Sexy
by Dehila DeWinters

I must admit the cooler days are a welcome relief after the sweltering days of summer that we just went through up here in NJ.  This is the time of year where the makeup colors change and it’s time for a fresh fall start.

Though I am a woman of a certain age, with three children and a rescue dog, I try to keep things hopping when it comes to feeling, well, feminine.  While driving a mini-van and making lunches may not seem like the optimal way to seem sexy, it’s not always about what’s on the outside.

Let me share my seven ways to sexy with you.

1) Wear a vibrant color.  I’m an Aries and my power color is red.  If you don’t believe in astrology, pick a bright fall color and wear the heck out of it.  It doesn’t have to be a shirt.  Try an bright orange scarf as an accent around your neck, red jeweled earrings or a hairband in a bright color.

2) Smile.  I’m not talking about a cheesy grin.  Smile like you’ve got a secret, like you’re on your way to a rendezvous with your favorite fantasy (whoever that might be).  Too many people walk around frowning.  Stand out with that little Mona Lisa smile on your face.

3) Wear a new scent.  No, don’t drench yourself in perfume.  Try a body oil, which gives a subtle smell that changes and warms with your body temperature.

4) Make a change.  If you don’t wear makeup, pick one item to try, such as a new lip gloss color, a different color eyeshadow or even a new tinted moisturizer.  If you’re a makeup maven, try a color that you’ve always wanted to try.

5) Invest in a good bra.  I know you’ve heard it a million times but a lot of women walk around wearing the wrong sized bra.  I’ll let you in on a secret.  A good fitting bra is the basics of feeling and looking good.  When you can throw your shoulders back and the gals are supported….nothing like it. Good posture is always sexy.

6) Splurge on expensive tights.  I love the cooler weather because I can stock up on tights.  I’m a huge fan of Spanx….and not just because of the name.

7) Listen to sexy music.  Whatever floats your boat here. Prince, Barry White, Hall and Oates, Fiona Apple….it’s wide open.  Pick a playlist that gives you that lovin’ feeling and enjoy!

What are some ways that you give yourself a pick me up?  Tell Dahila...  List ‘em in the comments!

Dahila DeWinters is an erotic and sensual multicultural romance author published with Liquid Silver Books, Evernight Publishing, Mocha Memoirs Press, Amira Press and Sugar and Spice Press. You can visit her at dahiladewinters.com


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It's the "Little" Things_See Body. Love Self. | Smell Good Spa™

 Guest Blogger - Ivy Cooper

Anything we desire to flourish must be nurtured.  A relationship with oneself is no different. Building a loving relationship with our body and ourselves is just like any other relationship.  It must be committed to and nourished daily.  The strength of the relationship becomes stronger with each decision we make to choose a healthier, happier life.  

If you are an enterprising woman, like me.  Then you are probably eager to achieve goals and celebrate accomplishments in your life. Sometimes we can be so busy looking at the “big” things we are working towards, that we forget to acknowledge the small steps along the way.  I am learning the art of reverencing the “little things” that I do to love my body and myself.  Just like any external relationship, positive reinforcement helps to build trust, intimacy, and a lasting bond. When we choose self love, it positively reinforces our commitment to our relationship with ourselves. So I started noticing the “little” things that I do to love on me.  Here are a few:

• Taking the time to sit down and eat a meal, acknowledging the blessings of the nutrients, flavors, and nourishment
• Pausing to give thanks, meditate, and pray before jumping out of bed in the morning
• Taking a short walk for 10-15 minutes in the middle of a busy day.
• Using my favorite body product during a relaxed, meditative bathe
• Painting my toenails a color that makes me feel happy
• Deep conditioning my crown
• Enjoying my favorite fruit during a short moment outside in the fresh air
• Pausing during any moment in the day to inhale and exhale deeply, giving thanks for life
• Looking in the mirror and noticing the things I LOVE about what I see
• Saying those things out loud

The best thing about choosing to love you is that you can start now! It is a choice, followed by small steps everyday to make your relationship with yourself a priority.  It doesn’t take a spending frenzy or a two week vacation.  You can begin doing the “little things” within your day to love on you.

Questions for Discussion:

Can you relate to any of the little things that I shared?

What are some of the things you do to love you, that you didn’t acknowledge in the past?

What are some new things you can do to build a loving relationship with yourself? 

As an agent for social change Ivy founded See Body. Love Self.™ a body positive movement. Through this movement she encourages women to “Embrace your body today. Love yourself always.™” Using the lessons learned in her own body journey, she educates others about how to live a body positive lifestyle. See Body. Love Self.™ advocates releasing judgment of self and others to, embrace a healthy love relationship with ones self. Learn more about Ivy and her positive platform at www.seebodyloveself.org