When my second-born daughter came into the world, her sister was present to welcome her. Up in her daddy's arms, and only 15 months old, with a gleam in her eyes she uttered the most heartfelt word, 'Baby'. She said it with a knowing - and lying there I felt her knowing. It was love at first sight for my first-born. Which was noticeable when the doctors took Baby out of the room, 'Baby leaving?' She wanted to go with Baby. At home, when second-born would cry, first-born rushed ahead of me - Baby crying. Shh, it's okay. The love she gave to Baby, Baby reciprocated - even to this day.
I watched that relationship blossom. As toddlers, when playing with friends, first-born would pause to go check to see if second-born was OK. It didn't matter if mommy or daddy were present, she took this role on without being instructed. Today, now young ladies, the friendship that has been cultivated is something to admire. And I do. I sit admiring their giggles, their own language, the support of each other, the gentle reminders of parental instructions from first-born to second-born, second-born keeping big sis in line, the act of resolving conflict without mommy or daddy stepping in, and just the overall respect they have for each other. Beautiful.
I remind them that this is 1 of the 3 most important interpersonal relationships they will have in their life. This relationship will set the tone for how you treat others, and how you will allow others to treat you.
Smell Good Spa™ has a little sister. And this first-born welcomes her into the world with nothing but guidance, support, and honest love. She is ready to show off the new addition, and has even invited friends that have supported her to partner up with her little sister. Because paving the way is what first-borns do.
What do little sisters do? They imitate what they see. Just like Smell Good Spa™, 360Love Apparel™ is committed to the women living their wholeness.
Palpability. The one word that came to mind when creating the Sparkling Collection. With great desire, I hope our female customers' femininity will be palpable to all who come in contact with them, when wearing the fragrances from this collection. Hello...
Last year, after enjoying a beverage from Strongbow®, I immediately jotted down several aromatic notes that came to mind with each swallow. Not all of the created blends made the cut, however, the gems that did, caused a bit of trouble with the other senses.
I presented a sniff test to my team. Initially, they expressed, "mmmm" and "ahhh" and "ohhhh" (because of the body glitter infusion) with great delight, and were ready to start rolling the ball across their skin. Then something happened - 'Wow, the back of my mouth feels like I just had a soda or something like cider!' Giggles. And a few swallows of the saliva that watered the mouth.
Olfactory senses cannot be ignored. The other senses seemed to be getting a bit jealous. The sense of taste was curious about the taste of the sparkling notes; The sense of touch wondered about that bubbly-upper-lip sensation; The sense of hearing anticipated the sound of a cork popping. The Sparkling Collection is truly a party for your nose.
Introducing: Sparkling Monoï, Sparkling Pear, Sparkling Pear &; Freesia, Sparkling Plum, Sparkling Papaya, and Sparkling Honey Apple
Do you live by the assumption that people with more body weight carry an odor? Who would assume such a thing? You. Me. Maybe? Most certainly, the 175 college students who participated in a recent study.
The sixth full paragraph caught my attention. So much so, I had to read it three times (once out loud). It begins with Once again. Olfaction is a formidable sense. It comforts us, protects us, and serves us well with everything else in between. It puts markers in our brain and the memory is seared in such a way, that at times a smell is present even when there isn't one. People can be so turned off by obese individuals that they actually imagine a bad smell, according to a new study. The beginning of the article states exactly what was used as scent samples. Wait for it.... Yup. Odor is present on people of all sizes. But why are the assumptions so strong towards obese people? It is all negative bias, or an individual's experience that the brain holds on to?
"Success as an entrepreneur involves making and constantly re-committing to the decision to stay the course. It is about an acceptance of success as a process, and not a specific end-result. Of course, results matter in business, but since results can only be influenced, and not guaranteed, entrepreneurs must look to process, not result, as a prime opportunity to align with their desired results." -Akilah S. Richards I don't know about you, but some days being an entrepreneur can make me long for a subconscious familiar place - my mother's womb. When those did-not-work results rise to the surface of my skin, it's those days that the fetal position consoles me from within. And although physically I cannot return, it helps to allow myself that meditative thought. I emerge with new ideas, repurpose ideas, and the knowing that I've never been afraid to trust the process. I often think that uncertainty of the process is because of the familiarity of what-can-go-wrong. But I progress on my journey with the understanding that I did not have a hand in the process of arriving through the matrix of my mother. Let go and look to the process.
This past Saturday night while enjoying my late night with King T., I decided to go online to look into getting some more candles. I visited the website of a micro-business that I've purchased from before. To my jaw-drop surprise, they closed their virtual doors. Being a woman-ran business, producing beautifully scented candles, very good branding, and phenomenal customer interaction are the reasons I gave my support to this business.
I'm sure there are several reasons for the closing (they gave a general statement). When the process starts to become uncertain.... I'm familiar with those reasons.....
Earlier Last Year
I wanted to give more. I wanted more for myself. I wanted more for my children. I put the business expectations aside, decided to continue to live and thrive from my holistic-entrepreneur approach. Decided to be more in what I love. TRUSTING THE PROCESS. More.
I opened this post with words from someone I truly have (Dare I admit it?) an endearment for. I'm not sure if Akilah lives in my headspace, but she always manages to pop up with nourishment for my thoughts. Akilah posted on LinkedIn about The Importance of Tenacity. She shared an inspiring quote from Amelia Earhart, and her personal story about Dr. Lonnie Johnson (also inspiring). OK, you got me, is what I thought when reading to the end of her post. Akilah reminded me of the places that for the longest I've operated from, and to never forget it. Yes, Akilah, because I am emotionally invested in my work, things get tough, but my imperfect self cherishes the practice.
Grab yourself a dose of Akilah-inspired words here.
So I came back from my annual break. Ready. And as you know, when I make a decision, I trust it. I knew that in order to continue to provide quality products with superior ingredients to my customers and shoppers, I had to do a business shift. I sat down with my husband and spoke the words that I only thought about. It's amazing the clarity that comes when words are said out loud. I was always hesitant about what I knew I needed to do, what the process was calling me to do, but in that moment of disclosing it to the one I trust the most it all became clear.
It was time for me to move forward in my business-to-business endeavor with women entrepreneurs everywhere, not just via email (it worked successfully for a time, but it was just within my network). Furthermore, to (continue to) neglect/ignore/not acknowledging the buying patterns of shoppers would be a downfall in business that could've been prevented, jeopardizing our virtual doors being closed (setting back other endeavors on the horizon).
So just like the grittiness from sand that removes dead skin to allow new skin, it will always take the grit that has made its way into me to endure on this journey of entrepreneurship. All while being encouraged by other women entrepreneurs, encouraging other women entrepreneurs, and of course looking to the process.
What does your today look like? Do you have grit like sand? Are you looking to the process?
“Bloom where you are planted and sow where you are fed...”
2015 is turning out to be an auspicious year. Right before exiting 2014, requests to collaborate in the coming year were entering my inbox, from women in my network. After several years of planting, nurturing and weeding, I am pleased with the harvest. Each year the bounty increases and the fruit is sweeter. Mind you, I do not have a super-large network of women, however, as each of us grow in our respected area of business, we are able to add more value to each other.
I am looking forward to helping women commit to their wholeness, through the sense of smell. This year, Smell Good Spa™ has partnered with A Woman’s Worth Conference (AWWC) by becoming a sponsor for this year’s event. AWWC is not only a conference, it is also a celebration of women. If you are planning to attend, look for your gift. xo
You can learn more about A Woman’s Worth Conference and purchase your (and a girlfriend’s) tickets here.