Tuesday, February 3, 2015

{Part 2} It Takes a Village to Raise a Woman Entrepreneur - Let's Get Gritty

"Success as an entrepreneur involves making and constantly re-committing to the decision to stay the course. It is about an acceptance of success as a process, and not a specific end-result. Of course, results matter in business, but since results can only be influenced, and not guaranteed, entrepreneurs must look to process, not result, as a prime opportunity to align with their desired results." -Akilah S. Richards

I don't know about you, but some days being an entrepreneur can make me long for a subconscious familiar place - my mother's womb. When those did-not-work results rise to the surface of my skin, it's those days that the fetal position consoles me from within. And although physically I cannot return, it helps to allow myself that meditative thought. I emerge with new ideas, repurpose ideas, and the knowing that I've never been afraid to trust the process. I often think that uncertainty of the process is because of the familiarity of what-can-go-wrong. But I progress on my journey with the understanding that I did not have a hand in the process of arriving through the matrix of my mother. Let go and look to the process. 

Saturday Night
This past Saturday night while enjoying my late night with King T., I decided to go online to look into getting some more candles.  I visited the website of a micro-business that I've purchased from before. To my jaw-drop surprise, they closed their virtual doors.  Being a woman-ran business, producing beautifully scented candles, very good branding, and phenomenal customer interaction are the reasons I gave my support to this business. 

I'm sure there are several reasons for the closing (they gave a general statement). When the process starts to become uncertain.... I'm familiar with those reasons.....

Earlier Last Year
I wanted to give more. I wanted more for myself. I wanted more for my children. I put the business expectations aside, decided to continue to live and thrive from my holistic-entrepreneur approach. Decided to be more in what I love. TRUSTING THE PROCESS. More.

I opened this post with words from someone I truly have (Dare I admit it?) an endearment for. I'm not sure if Akilah lives in my headspace, but she always manages to pop up with nourishment for my thoughts. Akilah posted on LinkedIn about The Importance of Tenacity. She shared an inspiring quote from Amelia Earhart, and her personal story about Dr. Lonnie Johnson (also inspiring).  OK, you got me, is what I thought when reading to the end of her post. Akilah reminded me of the places that for the longest I've operated from, and to never forget it.  Yes, Akilah, because I am emotionally invested in my work, things get tough, but my imperfect self cherishes the practice. 

Grab yourself a dose of Akilah-inspired words here

October 2014
So I came back from my annual break. Ready. And as you know, when I make a decision, I trust it. I knew that in order to continue to provide quality products with superior ingredients to my customers and shoppers, I had to do a business shift. I sat down with my husband and spoke the words that I only thought about.  It's amazing the clarity that comes when words are said out loud. I was always hesitant about what I knew I needed to do, what the process was calling me to do, but in that moment of disclosing it to the one I trust the most it all became clear. 

It was time for me to move forward in my business-to-business endeavor with women entrepreneurs everywhere, not just via email (it worked successfully for a time, but it was just within my network). Furthermore, to (continue to) neglect/ignore/not acknowledging the buying patterns of shoppers would be a downfall in business that could've been prevented, jeopardizing our virtual doors being closed (setting back other endeavors on the horizon). 

After the annual sale in November the shift was made. Select products were made available to retail shoppers during certain times of the year.  I articulated my decision to Ivy, a collaboration partner (She's another woman entrepreneur that I am becoming fond of. We have great synergy.), and she reminded me of the buzz term Pop-Up Shop. I like it, because it defines the shift exactly. Thanks, Ivy.  

So just like the grittiness from sand that removes dead skin to allow new skin, it will always take the grit that has made its way into me to endure on this journey of entrepreneurship.  All while being encouraged by other women entrepreneurs, encouraging other women entrepreneurs, and of course looking to the process. 

What does your today look like? Do you have grit like sand? Are you looking to the process?

Thank you for reading. 

Be Whole,
P.S. Online Pop-Up Shop in 2 weeks. Get the deets.

Friday, January 23, 2015

It Takes a Village to Raise a Woman Entrepreneur

“Bloom where you are planted and sow where you are fed...” 
-Stella Payton

2015 is turning out to be an auspicious year.  Right before exiting 2014, requests to collaborate in the coming year were entering my inbox, from women in my network. After several years of planting, nurturing and weeding, I am pleased with the harvest. Each year the bounty increases and the fruit is sweeter. Mind you, I do not have a super-large network of women, however, as each of us grow in our respected area of business, we are able to add more value to each other.  

I am looking forward to helping women commit to their wholeness, through the sense of smell. This year, Smell Good Spa™ has partnered with A Woman’s Worth Conference (AWWC) by becoming a sponsor for this year’s event.  AWWC is not only a conference, it is also a celebration of women. If you are planning to attend, look for your gift. xo

You can learn more about A Woman’s Worth Conference and purchase your (and a girlfriend’s) tickets here.

Be Whole,

Thursday, October 23, 2014

4 New Ways to Tell Him, "You smell good!" | Smell Good Spa™

Words of attraction -- in any language....

"Hueles bien!"
"Tu sens bon!"
"Anata wa yoi nioi!"
"Wewe harufu nzuri!"

Four new signature fragrances to tell the well-groomed king, "You smell good!"

Oud Wood -- the sweet aroma that flows from the bark of trees, after a soothing rainfall.
Oud Wood signature fragrances created for the man who embraces all or any of these characteristics:
  • robust Oud Black (Pepper)
  • opulent Oud Galbanum
  • rugged Oud Leather
  • mellow Oud Musk
Shop our newest signature fragrance collection here.


Sunday, August 24, 2014

How My Daughter's Flight Cried and Fight Said, "Shut up!" | Smell Good Spa™

So, let me tell you about my adventure yesterday.

Yesterday, we celebrated a new year with King T.  A few months back, our daughters and I planned to gift him with a day at the U.S. National Whitewater Center.  This place is grand.  You can go and do absolutely nothing and absolutely everything, and will have a memorable time.

One of our planned adventures was a twenty-foot-above-ground obstacle course.  While waiting for our turn, we observed the small children and adults (including seniors) who ventured out before us. Although they all seemed to be getting through the course successfully, the concentrating eyes and clenched jaws were giving me pause.  But, it can't be that bad. Right?

"Next person", said the attendant. I go up the steps, she connects me to the safety rope, and looks me in the eyes sternly. "Once you begin this course, you have to finish it." Only thing I could imagine at that moment was a steel door closing between me, her, my family and everyone else standing in line. Gulp.

Twenty feet above ground doesn't sound too bad -- when you're on the ground.

Our Shared Perspectives

Once the course was over, as a family we shared exactly how we felt about that adventure.

King T. - What have I've gotten myself into. It was great, man.  Loved it.

Me- Ditto. But also, I took on each obstacle at a time. I did not think about the one ahead, and after each one, I stood on the platform feeling accomplished and determine to master the next.

Warrior Princess Z. - The first step was harder than I thought.  I did not try to control the safety rope, because I knew it would come with me. I was able to plan my strategy and not think so much about falling to the ground, because I knew that I could rely on the safety rope.

Warrior Princess T. - Well.... we did not have to ask her about her perspective, because we heard it (everyone there heard it).

Her Fight Overpowers Her Flight

My young lady snot-nose cried on the fourth obstacle. Do I blame her? Not at all. She physically displayed what we ALL were feeling. Although she was hesitant from the first step, never once did she say, "I can't do this. I don't want to do this. I'm turning back." I heard her crying behind me, and although I empathized with her, I could not, would not default to the "mommy is here" mode. Why? Because I know my child. Her fight always wins out. And to be honest, she likes for me to just be there, not hover (I like that about my children). So, there she was crying, yet each time I looked up (Warrior Princess Z. and I were finished. Woo.) she was finished with one obstacle and on to the next. Her daddy was just heart-melting brilliant -- encouraging her. The couple behind her were encouraging and the fifty plus people waiting in line were cheering her on.  They even clapped and congratulated her when she was finished. They understood. I was/am so proud of my girl. I did not hug her, I high-fived her and patted her on the shoulder and said, "You did good." She liked that.

As we walked and talked, I said, "I bet if we come back next week, you'll be able to do that course again." She replied with a resounding, "Yup." Back straight. No hesitation in her response. A determine look.

Don't you just love that?

We All Have It

Flight and Fight is within us all.

You know that feeling. That inadequate feeling.

Flight tells you to stay in bed; no one is going to support this project; you failed, why not give up; how dare you think you deserve to feel accomplished. And it's so audible -- that was flight crying from the mouth of my daughter.

Fight tells you to persevere; get your butt out of bed, off the sofa; make some phone calls; stay present in what you want to accomplish; this project will get done; how are you going to get support if you don't do; how will you know if you don't try; so what you failed, but did you learn?

My daughter is a prime example of how if you want it bad enough, if you want to overcome obstacles in the way, if you want to get down from a twenty-foot obstacle course, you have got to let Fight propel you forward.

So many days I have felt the warm caress from Flight. Fight reminds me that it's a trick. Revolt!

Flight is needed.  It's there for a very good reason. That reason..... Danger. So, if you're not in danger from your aspirations, don't rely on it. Instead rely on the safety rope called Fight.

Remember, when it comes to accomplishing goals, the only difference between those who succeed and those who don't is Flight or Fight.

Which do you choose today, Flight or Fight?

Below are photos of our adventure (one has a short video snippet of King T. on the Mega Zip, 46-foot drop, 1,123 feet zip).  Enjoy.

Be Whole,

Monday, August 4, 2014

My Truth On Why Girls Have the Boss Mentality | Smell Good Spa™

Girls are born with the boss mentality.

If she chooses to become a wife, it's there for her to be a helpmate to her husband.

If they choose to have a family, it's there for her to keep order in her home, and raise whole children.

If she chooses to be the employer, it's there for her to delegate and generate success.

She is a princess. Not in the knight-on-a-white-horse/damsel-in-distress way, but possessing the leadership role with compassion; and, being able to be a warrior -- physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It's an honor to be a Warrior Princess.

My role in my daughters' lives is to teach them how to use that innate power for good....not evil.

One of the simple, but vital ways that I do so, is by helping them remember who they are.

Be Whole,

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

How to Keep Your Special Girl Winning, Aromatically

“I have a Powerful Purpose in life!” This is just one of the affirmations in the Stay Sweet Collection. Even a whole woman can struggle emotionally and mentally some days. Imagine a teenage girl with hormones going from one end of the spectrum to the next. Although her soul is already there, she’s trying to adjust and make sense of the “new” heighten surroundings. Olfaction is powerful, it has the ability to give positive and negative recall. Empower her to have many positive recalls throughout the day. A positive affirmation and beautiful scent - encourage her to remember her truth. All items in the Stay Sweet Collection are 25% off, during our back-to-school sale.


Sunday, June 8, 2014

Olfactory Series #7 Cinnamon::National Fragrance Week | Smell Good Spa™

It's just the first week of June for many, however, for those creative beings that pay respect to the olfaction, daily, this is the week when all things that smell good are celebrated.  Happy National Fragrance Week!

National Fragrance Week is about celebrating cologne, perfume and all things good-smelling. That includes scented candles, potpourri, soaps and lotions, flowers, and even food.

To celebrate National Fragrance Week 2014, I'll highlight seven scents that are beneficial for healthy living, in this Olfactory Series.

Yesterday was the last day of National Fragrance Week, and I am concluding this series with my
top-favorite scent.


Cinnamon oil is extracted both from the bark and leaves of small Cinnamon trees. Cinnamonaldehyde is the compound within the bark, that gifts us with that beautiful flavor and aroma.  Aldehyde is antiviral, and Cinnamon bark contains 41-51% of it. Additionally, Cinnamon leaf contains 68-87% eugenol, an anesthetic, antimicrobial, antiseptic and antioxidant.  Those numbers alone give insight into how beneficial Cinnamon oil is to healthy living.  Cinnamon is recorded in the Ebers Papyrus, one of the oldest Egyptian medical textbooks. The Ebers Papyrus dates back to 1550 BC, and contains over 700 health remedies.

Healthy Living Facts:
  • Cinnamon bark essential oil killed 92% of gram negative and positive bacterial strains out of 25 tested. (International Journal of Food Microbiology, 2006)
  • Cinnamon bark essential oil scored 42.5 (out of 50) in terms of anti-fungal activity. (Saurashtra University, India, 2006)
  • Diffusing a blend of cinnamon, clove, eucalyptus, lemon and rosemary oils can kill 99% of airborne bacteria in 12 minutes. 

Healthy Living Benefits:

  • Balancing Sugar Levels - Cinnamon oil has been proven to reduce glucose levels in those with diabetes. It has especially been helpful for those with type 2 diabetes. 
  • Memory Loss - Research has shown that Cinnamon oil is beneficial in helping the brain with memory, stimulating brain activity, attention span, and being able to decrease nervous tension. 
  • Purification and Circulation of Blood - Cinnamon oil is thought to remove impurities from the blood. Also, pain caused by poor circulation can be reduced when using Cinnamon oil.  Thus, ensuring the oxygen supply getting to the the cells. 
  • Breastfeeding - Cinnamon oil is believed to aid nursing mothers with a healthy supply of breast milk. 
  • Aromatherapy/Sex - Sex plays a major role in a healthy lifestyle. Cinnamon oil is used as an aphrodisiac, and is believed to arouse sexual desire.   

Healthy Living Trivia
  • Cinnamon oil was a part (250 shekels or 6.25 lbs) of the Holy Anointing Oil recipe given by The Most High to Moses (Exodus 30).
  • Cinnamon oil was one of the ingredients used in Four Thieves Vinegar (Marseilles Vinegar) recipe.  During the 15th century this recipe protected people from the plague. Here's the kicker: The recipe was created by thieves who robbed graves during that time. Those thieves were workers in the spice industry. 
  • The original Coke® contained six essential oils, including cinnamon essential oil.  Yes, the favorite beverage of choice, now ridiculed, had healthy benefits. 

Thank you for giving your time to the Olfactory Series this week.  I hope you walked away a bit more smarter, and are able to use the healthy living benefits.  If so, thank you for letting me serve you in this way. 

By the way, if the scent of Cinnamon has benefited you, share in the Comments. 


Consult a physician or certified aromatherapist before introducing essential oils into your healthy living regimen.


Martin, Nan, LSHC, CRTS. "The Health Benefits of Cinnamon Natural Anti-Inflammatory and Antiviral" ExperienceEssentialOils.com. 19 April 2014. Web. 8 June 2014

Organic Facts. "Health Benefits of Cinnamon Oil" OrganicFacts.net.  2 October 2007. Web. 8 June 2014

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